Wednesday, August 12, 2009


I hear alot that when you forgive someone you forget what they have done to you. I'm sure some will disagree with me, but I don't think this is always possible. Sometimes the hurt is just so deep you wonder if you will ever get past it. I know that with God all things are possible, and in time that might happen. But right now, I just can't come to grips with what has happened. I pray for answers everyday, but somehow, there just not there. I'm sure there's a lesson to be learned here somehow, somewhere. But where is it? How do you get answers, when they just don't seem to come? You pray and pray for wisdom in certain situations, but nothing seems to get any better. Can you tell I'm tying a knot in the end of my rope. No I don't mean as far as my belief and faith in God. That will never waiver. His ways are not our ways. And I'm sure he has it all in control, but then theres the BUT. The what ifs? The hurt, the disbelief, the broken trust, the disrespect., and the loss of respect. How do you get past all that other than with time.?


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  2. Never heard forgive & forget. Well I have but never lived by or believed it to happen.
    More like fool me once shame on you.
    Fool me twice shame on me.
    Or maybe
    What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. God put you in it he will pull you through it.
    Enough motivational speeches already.
    All you can do is pray for God's will. Sometimes it is a painful road but we pick ourselves up, brush off the dirt & look back later in life wondering how we made it through it. I know it is difficult trying to decide what the right thing is. love you!

  3. I have had to deal with this type of situation. I know my Mother always taught me to forgive and forget and I know that's what Jesus does but as a human it's awfully hard for me. Some losses I've suffered are to great that I don't know how I cope sometimes and I just have to keep going. I ask God "why" did this happen to me. One day he will be able to answer this and I will not have to suffer this. I guess time does heal some wounds and softens the intensity of the hurts but they always come back- especially on certain days and with certain memories etc.
    I'm thankful God does have our lives in His hands and he is taking me through these hard times.
    We will pray for answers and keep on going no matter how hard it is at times- the thing that keeps me going is my blessings and I more than most have to remind myself of things to be thankful for.
    Donna D.

  4. I don't know what kind of situation you are going through right now. Sometimes we let hurt and disapointment consume us and we give the person who hurt us power over us and it prevents us from moving forward. All we can do is be responsible for how we live our own life and pray for strength and guidance from our Lord. Life is not always easy. Keep the faith, this too shall pass.

  5. I don't know the situation, but I know for me I've been able to forgive some really awful things, but it took time and healing and lots of prayer. And even when I thought I had forgiven, God would suddenly show me some bitterness that was still hidden. And it's only been three and a half years, so I'm sure God is still working it out of me.

    For me, though, (and I don't know if this is right or not, just my thoughts) I'll never forget. I really believe I have forgiven because I can think back without anger or bitterness. (And I've even learned to see some good that came from a horrible situation.) But there is no way I could ever forget. And I'll always be different (and stronger) than who I was before because of the things I can't forget. Personally I don't want to forget because I don't want to be that naive again.

    Like I said, just my thoughts. Sorry for rambling.

  6. First, I don't think that forgiving always means that things go back to the way things were. I think there is always a new reality.

    If someone were to steal money from you, you don't leave them in the room alone with a pile of money. If someone molests children you don't leave them alone in a room unaccompanied with children.

    I think that you come to terms with the fact that you may not understand why someone did something, but that you don't need to. You make a decision to go on with your life and not let it affect you. And you forgive the person for causing you pain. You have to let go of any bad feelings because they only hurt you, but that doesn't mean you forget. You just choose not to remember the feelings and anger or pain associated with it?

    I hope that makes sense.


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